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What Not to Say to a friend going through a divorce…

We all have had those times in our life when we don’t know what to say to a friend when they are going through something. We try to show that we care for them but some of us have no filter and just say anything. That’s why I have come up with ‘what NOT to say to a friend going through a divorce.’

1. How are you going to make it?

Really genius, you don’t think I haven’t been worrying about that. Thanks!

2. It’s going to be hard.

Duh! πŸ™„

3. Are you sure you can’t make it work for the kids?

I’m pretty sure you better walk away from me as fast as you can.

4. What happened?

I don’t know you that well, it’s none of your business. 😡

5. Have you tried counseling?

No, I just woke up one morning and decided I was done. You’re kidding me with that, right?!

6. Well you’re still young and can get remarried.

News Alert…that’s the last thing I am thinking about. Never again!

So the next time you run into someone that’s going through a divorce remember to think think think before you speak. Ask them how they are doing, say that you are thinking about them, praying for them, and if you need anything I’d be happy to help. That’s all you have to do. Short and sweet people.

-Erin

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Pet Peeve Friday…let’s talk waiting room etiquette!

Ok friends, this edition of Pet Peeve Friday really gets me fired up! Much of our time is spent waiting….auto mechanics, business offices, schools, doctors appointments, etc. Sometimes waiting rooms are crappy, crammed and super uncomfortable. We may have to squeeze in seats between people, stand and at times I even sit with kids on my lap when there isn’t room. The other day I found myself in the Mecca of waiting rooms.

I mean this waiting room was a giant window lined room with seven or eight different horseshoe shaped sections of seats, sofas and loveseats. Each section had at least 15 spots for individuals. It was clean and spacious with coffee tables intermingled between the chairs. There was even a little coffee shop right outside the door. πŸ™ŒπŸ»β˜•οΈ. I knew I would be there a while waiting so I walked all the way to the second to last section and sat by myself. If you saw my Instagram pic yesterday, I grabbed a coffee and brought a brand new book. The entire time I was there there weren’t more then ten people sitting and waiting at a time. So I of course went to a section without people, far away from people because that’s how I roll πŸ’πŸΌ

You could imagine my shock and surprise when people decided to come not only sit in my general vicinity but a seat away from me or directly across from me. If there is a room full of open seats please do not go and sit next to a stranger who’s enjoying their peace and quiet! Ok you might be a people person so unlike me this wouldn’t bother you. So I dealt and continued reading my book while enjoying my coffee. For the most part they were pretty quiet and respectful thus far…..

But then it happened! Some lady came and sat in the seat directly across from me. She was loud and rambling out loud about how far it is to park and walk to the office. I look up from my book assuming she will surely see she’s being disruptive but clearly she did not. She then decides to take out her cell phone and phone a friend. And by phone a friend what I really mean is she Facetimed a friend! No joke! This lady preceded to have a ten minute LOUD FT conversation with her friend not five feet away from me while I was clearly sitting there reading. She did not get up or seek a private location but carried on an entire conversation right there until she was interrupted and called back for her appointment.

I was truly beside myself and continued to stare at this lady hoping she would get a clue. You might ask why I didn’t just get up and sit somewhere else. How dumb am I that I was worried about offending her by obviously getting up and relocating to get away from her. She clearly was not worried about offending me. I mean seriously! Let’s use this as a reminder to remember there are other people in the world around us and in waiting rooms πŸ™„ And if I’m there keep your distance, lol. Joking. No I’m really not joking 🀣

~πŸ’— Elena

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The grass is always greener!

My two girls are about 7 years apart in age and very different in SO many ways. My oldest is chatty, anxious and emotional while my youngest is super sensitive but fairly independent and always observing even when you don’t think she’s paying attention. Besides their attributes they have many differences in their physical appearances with the most obvious being their hair.

They both have dirty blonde hair that gets pretty light in the summer. My big girl (Bella) has always had this amazing hair and was complimented even when she was a baby. Her hair is crazy thick with beachy waves and gets a bit frizzy with the weather. I like to call it mermaid hair, but she can’t stand it often crying that it’s too thick and hard to clean. My little girl (Livi) has super thin, stick straight hair. The funny thing is they both want what the other has!! My oldest is always upset that her braids aren’t thin like her sisters and her ponytail doesn’t hang straight. My little one wants to know if her hair is as long as her sisters or if she has curls like her sister. The other night Bella did her sisters hair in 2 cute little buns and then asked if I could do the same for her. After I did them she took them out pretty quick because they were so heavy and started to give her a headache. Her little sister slept in hers. When she woke up and took them out the first thing she said was ‘is my hair curly like Bella’s now?’πŸ’–

We all do this!! I know I’m guilty. I’ve been paying upwards of $200 at times just to have dirty blonde hair which God finally gave me twiceπŸ‘§πŸΌπŸ‘§πŸΌ…He just didn’t give it to me on my own head πŸ˜‚ I bring pictures of celebrities and random people on Pinterest to my hair appointments because I want their hair. We see something someone has and we want it. I’m trying to teach my girls to not only be happy with what God gave them but also be happy for others for what God has given them too.

My girls are both beautiful in their own ways and I want them to celebrate others instead of being envious. This doesn’t apply only to physical appearances or attributes, but also successes in life. There’s nothing better than having a friend be happy for you and celebrate with you instead of being envious or jealous of your successes. We should be there to congratulate and cheer each other on and this starts with us as role models. Go out of your way to compliment and cheer others on. Our kids are always watching what we say and do. We certainly know this when we slip up and say a bad word then hear our 5 year old say it a day later. Like the other day when my littlest told her brother ‘you’re pissing me off’…I may have said that once or twice 😳🀣

I’m a firm believer of what you put out there comes back to you so let’s make sure it’s good stuff!! πŸ’–

~Elena

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Giveaway πŸ“šπŸŽ‰

Help us choose our next book for review and read along with us!

One lucky follower will receive their own copy of the book with the most votes and a $20 Dunkin’ Donuts gift card πŸ©β˜•οΈ

First tell us which book you think we should choose in comments and subscribe to our blog for an entry. For more entries follow directions below:

1) Follow on Instagram – elenaanderinblog

2) Tag 3 friends in Instagram comments (multiple times for multiple entries)

3) Follow us on Pinterest – ElenaAndErin

4) Follow us on Twitter – @elenaanderin

Winners will be chosen at random Tuesday April 10th at 10AM!!

πŸ’–Elena & Erin