Chapter 2 A Time for New Beginnings

“a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,”

‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

This chapter is all about how God uses us to share the love of Christ with others. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you’re from, or what you have done God can use you to spread His Love and bring Him glory. God loves to work through us but sometimes the work He is doing is within us.

‘ One of the most exciting things about being a Child of God is that God is always up to something new.’

When Elena and I decided to start this blog we both had a lot going on. We both had lost friends, made friends and my almost 14 year marriage was coming to an end. We were excited to share with people our likes, dislikes, and our love for God. But we were also and still are super nervous about sharing and getting personal about our lives.

I feel like my life is a wreck most days, that I have failed, and that I have nothing to offer. I know that’s not true but we all have things happen in life. So instead of thinking I’m a failure because of things coming to an end, I know that God is doing something new within me. I am not the same person I was, I have learned from my past and I am becoming the person God has called me to be. I still have a long way to go but I’m excited about the new things happening around me.

Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23

It’s comforting to know that even if I have failed today that tomorrow is a new day. That my story isn’t over and the best is yet to come. My hope is that by us sharing our stories we can help others to not feel alone.

God is good y’all!



Bible Study: Chapter 1- A Time for Everything 🦋

For our new study we have chosen the Women of Faith series study guide, A Time For Everything: Discovering the Beautiful Rhythm of Life. I love the layout of this series. We don’t have to flip back and forth to answer questions and I feel as though the questions make us reflect more on our own lives without being repetitive. I love reading Bible excerpts and comparing them to my own life, but I also want the study to help me better myself. As a parent we go through so many stages all different in their own right. So I’m really excited to get started and reflect on the seasons of my life as a parent, wife, friend, etc. as we go through this study.

“God’s timing is not our own. Rest assured that God has a time for everything under heaven. And He is with you every step of the way.”

Chapter 1 tells us to reflect on the seasons of the year as in comparison to seasons of our lives. I love the seasons, all 4 of them. I’m always ready for a change when they near the end….change of clothes, temperatures, holidays, decor and activities. Each season has its pros and cons but they all have something special about them. I have to admit I don’t feel the same way when I think about seasons in life. In life, change scares the heck out of me! I love order, schedules and routines. Changes in life are often preceded or followed by the unknown. The unknown makes me anxious. I don’t like to play out scenarios because there’s too any variables. So all too often when the possibility of change is near me I avoid it. I don’t want to talk about it or think about it. But once I come through whatever the life change is I realize it’s all good. I made it and no doubt God carried me through.

“Every season of life provides an opportunity to learn something more about God. Though we don’t always get to choose our season of life, we can always choose to call out to God and worship Him in the midst.”

Right now we are knee deep in summer. Hot, humid days here in New England, we’ve had some days approaching 90 degrees. But in the season of my life I would probably say I’m currently in winter. I’m in a bit of a hibernating stage. Not really looking to be social but instead focusing on my family & myself. For me that’s not hard because I’m a bit of an introvert (ok really a lot of an introvert 😬). Some seasons have been harder than others and when my kids were littler, my husband at work and me home taking care of them I felt lonely at times and wished for more adult social interaction. But I managed and became a better parent because I focused on them at the time. Now socializing is the farthest from my mind and my priorities have shifted a bit. So although some of the seasons seem harder than others for various reasons, looking back I can see how God uses them to make us better and bring us closer to Him.

What I’ve taken out of this chapter is to trust that whatever season we are in or phase of life we’re dealing with, God has us there for a reason. Trust in Him. He knows what He is doing and in due time we will reflect and say ‘oh, I get it now!’



Coming up…

A Time For Everything

Discovering Beautiful Rhythms of Life

We are super excited about starting our new Bible study! We are going back to the Women of Faith study guide series, it seems to fit us the best.

As women we want more balance in our lives. Between being a wife, a mom, a friend, and all of our everyday responsibilities it’s hard to get it done without feeling like we are drowning at times. This study will help us to see that trying to stay perfectly balanced is nearly impossible and to pay attention to the season of life that we are currently in. We need to learn to enjoy the beautiful rhythms of life and not wish for the next phase of life.

We hope that you will join us on this 12 week journey! Each chapter has questions at the end to dig a little deeper.

For everything that happens in life—there is a season, a right time for everything under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1



Chapter 9 Retiring From Self Care

This is the last chapter of our bible study. I want to start by thanking everyone who has followed along with us. This study was so much different than our last study and although it hasn’t been our favorite we have been able to take a few things away from it that will help us on our journey of becoming less anxious.

Meyer ends this study sharing how we need to be less independent when it comes to our relationship with God. ‘The root problem of independence is trusting ourselves more than we trust God.’ God wants us to trust Him in all areas of our life. But we want it done our way in our time, that’s just how we are. We need to stop being such control freaks and trust God and his timing.

Our High Lights:

What we fail to realize is, God has a plan for us too- and His plan is much better than ours.’

Our Plan Versus God’s Plan

For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome. Jeremiah 29:11

I believe it is wise to plan our work and work our plan. But we must not become so rooted and grounded in our plan that we argue and resist if God tries to show us a better way.’

I think that is the hardest part in life. I have big plans and big dreams that I will pray about and I will tell Him exactly how it should be done. Lol like who do I think I am? 😬

Jesus Was Not Independent

We should realize that anything we do independently, apart from God, will fail to bear any good fruit either for Him or for us.’

She goes on to explain that a lot of us don’t like to have anyone help us. We think we should take care of things ourselves for it to be done right. How many of us know people like that? 🙋🏼‍♀️ I am totally not like that, I know for it to be done the right way then someone else better do it. 😂

Overcoming A Spirit Of Independence

‘God expects us to walk by wisdom, but He also expects us to be aware of and care about what we are doing.’

‘If we want to do the will of God, we must be willing to get involved with people.’

A Broken Wall

‘The more we depend on God, the more He can do through us. But sometimes we go through a brokenness before we enter into blessings.’

‘When an avenue in our life is blocked, before we start trying to kick down the door, we need to back off and consult the Lord.’

‘Sometimes God has to block one avenue so we will be open to follow another.’

Trust The God of Justice

‘Do you know what God means when He says He is the God of Justice? He means that sooner or later He will make everything right.’

‘As Christians, it is not our job to seek vengeance, but to pray for our enemies, for those who mistreat is, abuse us, and take advantage of us. If we will do that, God has promised to take care of us.’



Chapter 8 This Too Shall Pass

This chapter was totally meant for me, as I’m currently going through a period of change. Change isn’t always a bad thing. Things change and it’s time to move on. I feel like some changes are exciting….like moving to a different state, buying a new house, taking a new job, or cutting your hair off! But it’s the life changing, painful changes that are hard to go through.

This Chapter reassured me that this too shall pass. We all go through seasons in our lives. We may have a bad season which helps prepare us for our good season. Let’s face it, if we only had good seasons we would think highly of ourselves and become prideful. It’s good to go through bad times because that’s when God humbles us and transforms us.

Here are Elena and my highlights for Chapter 8:

‘In this life whatever exists now, or will exist in the future, is not permanent, but temporary.’

and it shall come to pass… Genesis 4:14 KJV

‘God wants us to enjoy all of life-not just it’s destination, but also the trip itself.’

‘Since we are going to spend our entire lives waiting for something, we should learn to enjoy life as it unfolds. If we don’t, life will pass us up and we will never enjoy where we are right now.’

‘We have to realize everything we are going through at the moment will one day pass and we will enjoy the fruit of our labor.’

‘These trying times help us get more deeply rooted in God. They work humility in us and cause us to be very thankful when the blessings come.’

‘God doesn’t always change those people we want Him to change; instead He often uses them to change us.’

Meyer explains that the devil offers us two lies.

1) The forever lie– that negative things in our life will be that way forever.

2) The never lie– that if the positive things ever do change, we couldn’t stand it.

The truth is that sooner or later everything changes. We have to put our trust in Him because bad things don’t last forever, they often lead into way better things.

There is a reason that Elena and I live by the words ‘it is what it is‘! Things change, people change, surroundings change. It is what it is because we know that God doesn’t change and our hope is in Him. God is good!



Chapter 7 Cast your care, not your responsibility

I struggle not living with guilt and condemnation. I am just one of those people who doesn’t like to follow rules, love pushing my limits, and living life on the edge. It’s just who I am, ok! 🤗 The only problem with that is that everyone else has a problem with it. Over the years people love to point out my mistakes and tell me who and how I should be. Which then makes me feel guilty and causes me to overthink everything.

In this Chapter Meyer talks about casting our care upon Him. She explains that casting is a violent word which means to throw, hurl, arise, send, and drive out. So we need to get spiritually violent. Some of that violence is expressed in our ‘absolute refusal to live any longer under guilt and condemnation, which can actually be worry about past mistakes.’

Some of us want to change people by making them feel guilty for their mistakes or choices. Here is what Meyer has to say about that…

‘People can NOT change people. Only God can change people.

‘It’s the Holy Spirits job to bring conviction to sinners

It’s not my job and it’s not your job to make people feel guilty. So let’s stop trying to change people and let God do His work in us and in others.

We spend too much time worrying over situations in our lives and not enough time praying for God’s will to be done in our life. What we want or how we think the situation should go isn’t always what God wants for us. I know when I worry and have all these life problems thrown at me I become a monster. I just have to fix it and I drive myself crazy over all the different ways I can try to get it worked out. I know personally I need to do a better job at resting in God’s word and completely handing it over to Him. I need to praise Him in the good and bad times. I have three girls who are watching the way I handle hard times. I know I need to set the example of how I trust in Him during the storms of life.

‘Biggest problem for most Christians is their inability to distinguish between God’s will and personal ambition.’

‘ The Bible teaches we are not to give in to such “evil tendencies” (James4:6), but rather to continue to bear fruit, giving thanks and praise to God even in the midst of negative circumstances.’

‘It’s our responsibility to cast our care upon the Lord, trusting Him, praying without worrying, continue in obedience, bear good fruit, and offering Him the sacrifice of praise.’




Chapter 6- He Careth for You

In this chapter Meyer is looking again at Psalm 91:1,2. She explains that there are three aspects that determine our ability to receive God’s richest blessings. First we must dwell in Him, second we must dwell in the secret place, and third we must remain under the shadow of the Almighty.

1- Dwell means to remain; to settle

John 15:4 Dwell in Me, and I will dwell in you.

2- Dwell in the secret place of the Most High meaning a place of protection. Kept safe from our enemies. (Haters is the word I use 😂)

3- Remain under the shadow of the Almighty. Meaning we must make the Lord our Refuge and our Fortress.

*Leaning and relying on Him

*Confidently trusting in Him

She goes on to talk about prayer how it produces peace, rest, patience and hope.

Do not worry and be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and petition. And God’s peace will guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6,7)

‘If we are truly believing God and trusting the Lord, we have entered into his rest. We have prayed and cast our care upon Him and are now abiding in the perfect peace of His holy presence.’

Romans 5:2-4 And we boast in hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our suffering , because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.

The last part really spoke to me because she explains the importance of suffering in silence. It’s really hard not to want to run to your best friend or close friends to talk about your trials. It’s like we want help to figure out how to handle these problems or build an army against these problems. But Meyer tells us ‘stop running to people and start turning to God. To pray to Him and cast my care upon Him- in secret. There is a time to share what we are going through, and a there is a time to keep things between us and God.’

We tend to spend so much time talking and worrying about our problems that the work never gets accomplished. When we keep things to ourselves and pray about it, God will work things out for the good. ‘But we serve a God Who is so good He can take a bad thing and actually work good in us from it.’ 🙌🏻

With all the social media out there we really need to work on this my friends. We tend to want to air all our dirty laundry out there for the internet world to see. Once it’s out there, it’s out there forever. People don’t need to know your trails, these same people that see it could also be your haters. Then good really won’t come out of your trials.

‘As a body of Christ, we are supposed to seek God, not the answers to our problems. If we will seek Him and His righteousness, He has promised to provide all the answers we need’

So let’s stop sharing all our life problems and let’s start praying. Then you can one day share the amazing things God has worked out in your life.